I am about to get kinda serious. Sorry if you hate this kind of thing. Just scroll down and skip right on by if you don't want to read. I don't mind :)
I was blog-hopping tonight (shocker, right) and I came across something that literally made my heart ache. It was a comment made about someone else's mothering choice. I won't say who or where on in response to what, but this is what it said:
"It is a privelege to have children and why? WHY???? would we choose to work outside the home and let someone else raise them through a daycare? especially if your whole pay check would go to PAYING that stranger to feed and care for your children? Why have them if you are going to let someone else raise them?"
and not in a funny Ashton Kutcher kind of way.
Major burn... because I have thought these same thoughts toward myself. In the past year of me being a working mom I have fought to overcome my insecurities and fears only to have my delicate confidence come
crashing down because of comments like this. This person does not know me, I am sure. I know she didn't have me in mind when she said it. But once again - ouch!
I am not trying to start a controversy or debate. I don't want a fight between stay at home moms and working moms. In fact, a working mom/SAHM debate is the last thing I am trying to accomplish. I just want to call out the hate and ask that we all stop.
Stop the mommy judging.
Stop the "My way is better" game.
Stop trying to one up each other.
We all have to make choices and decisions for our family. Our family decision is that I work. And I honestly feel in my heart that I am trying to do what is best for my sweet little son. I am pretty sure most mothers are doing what they feel is best for their children. It is a personal, individual family decision. There are thousands upon thousands of family scenarios out there. I would challenge anyone to take on the task of deciding what is best for each and every one of those family situations. Don't know about you, but I am sure glad I don't have to judge what is best for someone else.
Have I mommy judged? Yes, sorry to say. Especially before I had kids I thought I had it all worked out. heh. Boy, was I wrong. No more mommy judging for me. No more judging others, no more judging myself.
It is a relief to let the judging go. It makes life easier, makes you feel lighter. Thank goodness I only have to mother my own child and not everyone else's. That would be like a billion kids and my sanity is already hanging by a thread with one :)
So moms - guess what? We are all moms. We are all muddling through the most challenging task we will ever know - raising children and shaping lives. We need each other's support - stay at home or not!
Are you with me?